I was reading through Genesis chapter 2 and wrote a bit of commentary on the top of my head, so I thought I’d share it here. I’m no trained exegete and I’m not married, but hopefully you won’t consider my attempt here too over my head!
Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” Now out of the ground the Lord God had formed every beast of the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them. And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name. The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him. So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. Then the man said,
“This at last is bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called Woman,
because she was taken out of Man.”
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.
This is the first time God says something is “not good.” Though Adam is in a wonderfully privileged position in a sinless world, his situation is not yet ideal. He needs other human beings to help him in his task of having dominion over the world.
God brings him every animal to see what the man will name them. Again, God doesn’t do everything immediately by Himself, but it pleases Him to give the man a say in His creation and to give the man work to do to complete His creation. He makes us co-workers with Him in His work, which is very humble, loving, and good!
In the end none of the animals were suitable for him, so God made him go into a deep sleep and gave him a woman, another human being that complimented Adam. Adam was overjoyed to see her and sang a song to her. The Lord then actually commanded that they enjoy each other and make love, because it is in this most intimate act that the Lord would bring forth children. Humans would then be able to multiply, fill the earth, and have complete dominion over the world just as God commanded. We aren’t meant to be alone, so there’s spouses, siblings, cousins, friends, co-workers, etc., that we share life and work together with for God’s good purposes and pleasure.
Though Adam needed a wife, he didn’t get her immediately. God first gave him a task to do, name all the animals. Who knows how long this must have taken! For us who desire to marry, it may be that God has good work for us to do before we find our helpers. Even after Adam was done with this, God didn’t immediately give him the woman, but put him to sleep. He needed to be patient. He then finally got the woman, his helper, but it didn’t come free. Part of him, his rib, was sacrificed so that he could have the woman. Perhaps this is a picture for all of us men. Whenever one of us wants to pursue a woman and make her his wife, he must sacrifice something (free time, video games, etc.) and give her his whole life. When Adam was given the woman (not yet named) he sang “At last!…” Adam must have waited a long time for this moment and was looking forward to the moment he would have a helper suitable for him. Those of us who are waiting need to be patient and trust that the Lord knows what He’s doing.